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- We had an alumni hooking up with a brother for a while.
- In that situation, the question is always are you doing it for the person or because you really like the org.
- We've talked a bit about what could happen if things go sour.
- It was sort of an open secret that my sexuality was unclear because brothers either knew or strongly suspected I hooked up with guys.
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Dionysus GreekChat Member. They might be able to provide a better answer for you, since they know the culture of that specific chapter. As a matter of practice, keep the chapter out of your relationship business and keep your relationship out of chapter business. Originally Posted by naraht.
- But it is not inherently wrong or against what a fraternity is.
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- So figure some way to break the news to them gently and privately.
- That the homophobic guy would be the one told to shape up or get out.
- Your roommates are probably going to figure out when you two start sleeping in the same bed and sharing clothes.
- We've talked about some of them before, but having a solid agreement on how we're going to handle certain things is probably smart.
Awesome guys and I respect them. We are triple checking our budget and making sure everything is in order. Get him ready to be outed. Were you friends with anyone else in the chapter before you pledged? Find all posts by mbatisah.
Mod's interference is minimum, everything is allowed except for what is listed in the rules here. Yeah, I am talking about my big. And most of us were athletes on Div I teams, too, dating younger man quotes and still no issues. You're hosting this year iirc.
Is the brotherhood not supportive of you? He has a job and stopped drinking and keeping irrelevant friends. Break ups bring out the immaturity in everyone, no matter what age. The only chapter that I've run into that runs pledging across the new year is Theta at University of Virginia, and I'm not even sure they do it anymore.
2. Everyone in his fraternity knows you
Find all posts by Sister Havana. They will be great at giving you some much-needed outside perspective! It's an interesting dynamic. If someone has a problem with it they're not a true brother.
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This person that I'm interested in is also my big so will that even be more weird? The truth is that I love the organization and am sad that I'll leave them short a member and chairperson. It was a complex situation and one I wouldn't necessarily encourage someone else to get into. How do you manage to make it work? Never really understood fraternities or sororities.
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Many single-sex Greek letter organizations used to justify their single-sex nature by saying it is so because the concept of fraternity depends on a setting that precludes romantic relationships. So I recently got into a relationship with my best friend, who happens to be my fraternity brother. Dating within Co-ed Fraternity. Also be reaching out to your pledge brothers for support, they're the cadre that's going to most likely have your back after the shit you all went through together. But brothers shouldn't fuck brothers.
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It's always a bit complicated when you find yourself in close bonds with others who share the same values. As most have said, jenna dewan dating don't fuck your brother. Good luck securing that marriage licence.
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The frat I was in threw me out after I fucked half of them. It sounds like he'll be okay since you've already cleared the way, but he should know that it's coming. In your case, though, I'd honestly hold off so no one thinks you have hidden motives. Sister Havana GreekChat Member.
We got paired up based on questions and pretty much what they thought was most compatible. As of now nobody knows we're together. That's why it's not encouraged to date in the workplace. Hopefully this next year is different for you! Not a big deal in my book, and he's helped me bring back shut tons of girls from the bar so I'm chill about it.
Our goal is to make it seem like nothing's really going on, especially at first. It could be potentially really weird if she doesn't like me that way. So, fraternities seem to be the type of environment that is very open to heterosexuality and machismo. You need to both be capable of completely isolating your relationship and your roommate-ship. If so, and if you think they could keep the information private, would you feel comfortable asking them about the situation?
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It can get messy if they're both still actives, so I'd probably advise against it. He's just like any other brother. In other words, don't dip the pen in company ink.
We both have pretty wide social circles, although they do overlap quite a bit. They went on a couple dates, hooked up, benefits of dating then ended it. Someone's going to do the math and figure it out. My boyfriend doesn't want to tell them though because he's not out at all.
If you are both brothers, I simply don't see a problem. We are not dating per se but I have a feeling he will eventually come to terms. My big was my boyfriend we were dating before I started pledging. We haven't lived together before, but we've been good friends for about a year and a half, so we're at least used to each other. Brian One of the rules of straight-identifying males is that you should feel totally at ease with each other.